Being Engaged!!

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I recently got engaged; two months back! Though  it was a love turned arranged marriage , I must say it felt all arranged. I still belong to an old school of thoughts and at times,  it makes me wonder, really was I in love for 6 years with the same guy?
Just like it happens with an arranged marriage, the guy's family drops in to meet the gal's family. rather see the gal, the same stuff happened with me. I was nervous, like any other gal would.I wondered why i was nervous.. i had known this guy for so long... then why the anxiety.. May be because i wanted things to go right ... Thousands of thoughts crossed my mind, and finally i was down with fever . Two crocins down , i somehow looked presentable on the day which was supposed to be the most important day of my life. More important than any other day rather. Dressed in  a saree( Again the old school of thought worked here) I waited impatiently for my groom and the family. And I must say the wait was endless. Finally they came in.
I was always against the arrange marriage stuff because i am an all time confused bimbo who is highly indecisive who can't decide petty things for herself, forget choosing the life partner in some twenty minutes or what!!!  Ok now you would wonder how I zeroed on in my fiancee....surprisingly right from the day i met him, nothing felt wrong, there was no two opinions or rather there wasn't any second thought. There was something right about the decision. Everything felt right about him, about us!!And an other reason for not liking the arrange marriage stuff, was carrying the tray of tea and delicacies to the innumerable prospective grooms where you have to be shy, and all eyes are glued on you.I hated that!! What was I , a show doll? And so arrange marriages were strictly NO!!!
But carrying a tray for my future in laws felt right. Suddenly i felt shy too... Seriously shy and Me!! I wondered!! But doing this felt as a responsibility i must shoulder all my life which i felt was right! When you feel things are right,  there is no way they can go wrong.  The meeting of the families went well . And so we are engaged!! yay!! we are engaged !! :D :D
 I always used to ask people , whether there was any difference between staying engaged and being in a relationship.  And people would say Nah!! we feel the same. But i do feel a lot of difference ... The transition of a boyfriend to a fiancee  changes a lot of stuff in your life. I am not sure whether you all would agree with this. But yes, i believe a responsibility comes up along with the ring. And its a sweet one...It's very essential to understand that the way you carry yourself, the way you behave will not only affect your family but your future family too.. Its not just one family that you have to care about now! but its two families !! And also you can't call your fiancee an idiot or a dumbo in front of the so called "relatives"  though you  are thick friends till date. Yes but calling him an idiot in private...more than welcome :P
There are more people to care for, who care for you and lovely moments to look forward to.
This is the moment where you get to understand your partner from a different point of view, where you get to know his family, where you know what your future parents in law are going to be. At the same time, this is the moment where they would also understand you as a person. I would advice not to fake it, and try to be the  best bahu of Sas bahu sagas.. it doesn't work that way. If you are stupid, be it.. let them accept the way you are... because trying to be intelligent for years to come is going to be a difficult task. The period between the engagement and marriage is also the time, when you try to accept his parents as yours. I would call it as one of the most sensitive period of a person's life , something that should be handled with care.
Handy tip : Spending more time with your in laws and knowing to get them better is something that should be done during this pre marriage period.

And apart from all this, calling your boyfriend a fiancee  gives a different sense of happiness.

If you are of the marriageable age and haven't fallen in love yet, don't keep searching for one.. it could come on your way during the many walk-ins with the tray of tea and delicacies. And trust me..once you get engaged, you are going to love the time before the marriage and after the engagement....

My Winning Speech

This would be My Winning Speech on being rewarded the BlogAdda Blog Award!

""The prize for the best blog in the personal category goes to Chitra Nair. ""

As i hear my name being announced my heart skips a beat and i walk with my head high with pride and joy. As i reach the stage, I have been offered the mike to speak a few words and i remind them  I write well and not speak well :)

But then as there is always a first time for everything, I take on the mike and clear my throat  to find myself at a loss of words.

After few heavy breaths, I start talking

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I am glad  Blog Adda chose me for this award and am extremely thankful to the entire team who thought i had it in me to make it to this list.

I have loved writing right from the age of 5. I would scribble down stories and ask my mom to read it.My parents would be my critic then. As i grew, I couldn't find time to sit and write .My sister suggested me to start a blog.The entire idea of starting a blog fascinated me and i started with a bang. One or two posts later, i lost interest and i dumped the idea totally.

This & That was born as a result of a random comment made by my friend Abhi who thought i should shut my mouth and instead put all the garbage that i keep talking onto a paper so that he is not the only one who has to suffer. That comment had a serious impact and i started penning down my thoughts. My blog is just about my thoughts and it is something that lets me pour my heart out. With hundred regular readers to my credit, this two year old baby of mine has given me numerous reasons to be proud of.

I would want to thank my critics, my close friend Sujit, my other friends who have been regular readers,my sister Priya( who is my editor),my fiancee who has been extremely supportive,my mother in law who is proud of me no matter what i write,my colleagues who think i write well.

And my parents, i can't thank them enough; they made me who i am .Ya , one thing that i need to thank them enough is for paying the electricity bills, while i endlessly blogged all night at times.My dad has been my inspiration. And my mom, my encouragement, my backbone!

Am i getting too sentimental here ? hhehe!!

For all those who couldn't make it to the list ,guys dont be disappointed, i would want to quote this ( my favourite lines):


Sitaron Se Aage Jahaan Aur Bhi Hain,
Abhi Blogging Ke Imtihan Aur Bhi Hain
{
Beyond the stars are even more worlds
There are still even more tests of blogging
}
 
Tu Shaaheen Hai, Parvaaz Hai Kaam Tera
Tere Saamne Aasmaan Aur Bhi Hain 

{You are a falcon, your task is to fly
Before you there are other skies as well to cover
  } 

With tears in my eyes, i kiss my trophy and walk down only to be hugged by my mom - the same way she did when i earned hundred bucks for my story writing competition .

Boulevard Of Broken Dreams

This post was an entry to Read Leaf Poetry India Award

Early Mornings When I walk by

In a Hurry, to Reach my Office Nearby

Across the lane, she walks out of her home

In tattered clothes, she would walk and roam

Her eyes ask questions, a hundred

They gleam at the sight of Bags and books

Down she looks,and silently lifts her basket

Carrying the burden on her tender shoulders.

On being asked, what would you want to be

"A doctor ", she replies with glee

Breaking into an angelic smile

She walks away.....

A Lost Child hood, Hundred Broken Dreams

She silently gets lost in the crowd of Millions

Selling her wares,Selling her innocence

Pushed and Shoved in the crowds

On my way back,I Find her sitting alone

A broken doll , a broken toy would lay by her side

Nothing to study, nothing to look forward for

A day of Struggle just sets by.

No crayons would add the hue

No spray paints would add that color

Hardships and struggles have marred her life

Colors of Worry Now Fill The Palette Of her Life

A boulevard of broken dreams she lives in

Having Lost Her way to A Carefree Childhood,

Stuck in a maze of poverty

She stares into the void with empty eyes

Unsure of what the future beholds for her

Unsure of what the next morning awaits

She slips into deep slumber on the pavement

Skeptical of waking up alive the next day....

Love Forever!

This post is an entry for Platinum Day of Love Contest on Indiblogger

 

When you are in love, everyday is like a platinum day  of love. There are ups and downs in every relationship but there are moments captured in each of them which form memories and get framed in the sands of time.
I am a die hard romantic and i see love in the simplest of the stuff that my partner does for me. Everyone does silly stuff when they are young, everyone tries to woo you when you are hot , sexy and young.
For me my platinum day of love would be when :
 - I grow old, i no longer have a figure to flaunt and my partner still finds me beautiful.
- I grow old and he finds my body beautiful even with those stretchmarks and post pregnancy marks.
-  I grow old and still we would have that one weekend coffee date. the typical filter coffee that i would make for him or the one he would make for me.
- We would see our grandchildren growing up and he reading stories to them and me.
- He would worry about me not taking my medicines .
- He would worry about me returning home late .
- He would occasionally bring flowers for me from the  local flower market.
- He would bring me "one saree" that would have such awful designs but would insist on me wearing it.
-When I would pose in for a photograph with him and still find him handsome like always.

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-When we would fight and not talk for days,and he would make attempts to break the ice.
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- When he would cook me my favourite meal once in a while.
- Our long walks together discussing our life and our moments spent together.
- when I am fast asleep after a hard day’s work and  he puts a warm blanket on me

- When I cook terribly and he says “It’s yummy”

- when he would kiss me goodnight, and i would pray to wake up every morning next to him.

All these are some rare moments ; are rare and unique like the platinum.
For me love is eternal just like "platinum" the metal which stands for love and purity. For me love is all about growing old with my partner. Its all about living for the one special person ,accepting them with their imperfections and making it a perfect platinum life full of such wonderful platinum moments. 

i believe Love is like a bottle of wine which just gets better and better as we age and if your's is such a love that has grown lovelier over the years,mark this milestone by getting your partner platinum love bands which would be an epitome of your everlasting love.

                                

Am Back!!

Oh my god i missed blogging so much. I have been away for the last two months( not sure whether anyone noticed) but  then it's been a hectic two months and i have missed my presence in  the blog-o-sphere.

I have been busy shedding weight, getting my boyfriend get engaged to me and lots more.  Ha!! so to cut short i would bring to you all the what ,why hows of my life :)

Ok ! several good things, bad things, and several I care a damn stuff happened  in  the last two months

We begin with the Good Stuff

Good Stuff :  Good Stuff coming in a number of blog posts after this one... Well I wouldnt disappoint you,I won an Ipad 3g and am going crazy about it. . Lots of engagement news ,marriage news. I shed lots of weight(this is the best news)

A close friend of mine got married and there couldn't be a more happier news than this one.

Bad stuff : Every bad stuff brings in a lot of lessons for those who want to take the downs in life positively.

Lots of friendships ruined. There is a reason why we aren't friends anymore- either u dont deserve me or its the vice versa. Whatever it is , I have no regrets.....

I don't Care A Damn Stuff : A so called "Bessshhhht Friend " left  few weeks back ,just left like a coward and betrayed my friendship in her/his  own sweet way.

Baby, I care a damn ... just for your information you are not someone people would want to know about, or you aren't that inspiring for me to keep a track on your whereabouts.. You are simply a face I would blink and miss

And yeah this person deserves this special mention here because you all would have had  a friend whom you thought was your best buddy but eventually turns out to be a bad horrible person . Am sure you guys would be able to relate with it .. what I went through !

Keep reading posts to have a detailed version of all the highlights...

Am back with a bang!! and you guys can expect some good quality posts.