Mar 11, 2012

Kyunki Sas Bhi Kabhi Bahu thi – Ha Toh??

  This is an official entry for Stayfree held by Indiblogger

 I know this is a weird headline to go for the topic “Time to Change”. But then this is exactly something that I want to change. I hope you  have got the idea by now. If no, Please continue reading.
I seriously get pissed off with the male dominance in our society.We talk about equal rights to woman, woman liberation ,empowerment etc et c all the words that can be put up together from the dictionary. But then we see nothing put up into practice.
We want equal rights for men and women but even today woman cant dress the way they want. We talk about liberty but still woman aren’t free to walk alone or be alone in the cities.We talk about  woman empowerment still everyday a girl child is dumped because of the only fault that the baby is a gal. I donot blame the male society alone here , woman are equally responsible for this state of the society.We woman give birth and we ourselves be a mute spectators to our child being dumped ,aborted or killed just because the child was a girl.being a mute spectator doesnt make  you a saint, you are equally a partner in crime.
TV, newspapers , internet etc are a medium to reach people. Its  a medium via which we can spread  a message to the society. If used in the right way ,these mediums can change the society,can change the outlook. I watch a  lot of tv soaps, shows etc on television like most of the people do. I have always wondered why it is always the woman whos being shown oppressed ,depressed,suppressed.Why only woman being shown tortured gives a lot of TRP’s .Surprisingly most of this soap operas are watched by the community of house wives.Kyunki sas bhi bahu thi – ha toh? just because a mother in law underwent torture and hundreds of marriages ,the new daughter in law too should undergo the same? Why is it always that a woman is shown  tortured by her in laws,her hubby on screen?Why is it most of the times a woman is shown betrayed by her husband.Why isn’t it vice versa? Why is it that woman are always shown to be weaker section of the society?Why is it woman are shown weeping and silently bearing the torture of the society just for the sake of her family.?Wny doesn’t a show garner trps where a woman is shown a strong character and doesn’t bend down to the rules of the society? Why is it shown that a dark skinned gal is unable to find a suitable groom?Why do shows like SAS BAHU AUR SAZISH sell like hot cakes? Why a dadisa(grandma) or a Ammaji kind of character who keeps her daughter in laws to daughters under her control become famous?WHY!WHY??WHY?Its the mentality that sucks! It’s the outlook that’s gone wrong. And the most surprising fact is Most of these shows made by woman producers and directors.Why making a woman weak in reel life or real life give an unexplained satisfaction or contentment?

I believe this is a thing which may have happened ages ago or may still be happening in  a lot of places. Why cant we bring about a change in the outlook of the people by bringing up shows or advertisements where woman are not being treated as a substance, a sex symbol,rather woman are depicted as a symbol of respect. Every house owns a TV color or black and white .People in India follow the television trends or the movie trends or whatever is shown on the big screen blindly. Egs of that are during the shaktiman days,people tried to enact and jumped from their roofs. When we live in such a  TV frenzy world,why not use the medium in a  proper way.

One thing I would love to change is the way the TV portrays woman.I would want woman to be shown as a strong character not  the ones who bend down to the torture of their inlaws or husbands.I want a character to be etched out which fights against the injustice done ,which sets up an example for the millions of woman watching these shows.I want a change in the characters that the makeup clad woman play.I want those characters to encourage woman  not to remain silent and fight back against the injust ice done to them.I want TV to reduce the male dominant serials to be brought down and come up with shows which shuns domestic violence rather propagates it.
We do not want reel life villains to come into life and give birth to real life ones every single day.We want our society to be a heaven to live in. We donot want our coming generations to be racist- the one who shuns dark skinned gals,rapist- the generation where in every gal wearing a mini skirt becomes entitled to rape,wife beater- the generation where thrashing a girl gives a lot of relief to the male ego,murderers- the generation which aborts evey gal child being born.etc.
This is the right time to bring in the change Pen is mightier than sword and so  I have used this medium in the smallest possible way to bring in the change. What are you waiting for?

 Wanna be the change you wish to make..Go the Stayfree way


  1. Wow thought provoking...have been reading themes related to this and well said...and I feel that media should be used in a right know i am talking about your point regarding the TV serials ...good luck..loved it and promoted!

  2. Great post. Definitely time to see woman live life on her own terms and liberated enough to be herself !

  3. @solitary writer: thanks a lot.
    @the moon stone: thanks..definitely a high time :)

  4. Wow! I enjoyed reading all through!And yea,now is the time for women to fly higher and higher ..some go higher and come back to their nests while some go fly themselves into doom! What a life..Women are truly amazing though! :)

  5. @Jen: thanks a lot glad u liked it :)

  6. Thought-provoking, bold and different.
    I think we should all start a TV show where women are stronger. What say? :P

    Can u please read & promote my post here? :)

  7. @nupur: yeah y not..we can all start a television serial where the heroine bashes up the guy ;) thanks for reading it

  8. excellent say,very concerned points raised. best wishes.

  9. I would love to see a TV serial with strong, fun, thoughtful and free-of-shackles women too. Loved the line "We do not want reel life villains to come to life and give birth to real life ones"

  10. @Maun vision: pramodji u commented on my blog and u made my day:)

  11. @Kayem: me too looking for the same.. tired of seeing glycerine overflowing all the time and seeing woman as a weak character...


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