Nanhi Kali

What do you think about your mother? your girlfriend?,your sister?,your grandmum?,your first crush,your teacher on whom you had a secret crush????What is the first word that comes to your mind when you have been asked to describe them? I have asked many people the same question and everyone would say “Gorgeous, Beautiful!!! Attractive and they would go on and on…. You love all these ladies in your life and so the overflow of praise and flattery!! Right??? All these ladies in your life were also small angels at a point of time, don’t you think so? But then when it comes to the preference of a child, why is it that people  still crave for a boy child? I have had this friend (girl) of mine who promised me a party if one of her aunt’s gave birth to a baby boy. Only if it was a baby boy!!! That left me a bit  disappointed and left me wondering as to why there is still a big hue and cry about a baby gal being born even now when we have reached the 21st century.We have reached the 21st century, gals have surpassed men in every field, in every thing but still the ratio of women as compared to men keeps dipping every year. Don’t you love your mum, aren’t you proud of the fact that she made you what you are today. What if she was never allowed to live? What if she was killed within 3-4 months when she was just  about to learn how to breathe? Killing an unborn child is inhuman but then killing it after knowing that it’s a girl child is nothing less than a cold blooded murder.

 In India they are obsessed with having a baby boy , since a baby boy would carry their lineage. Women are tortured, burnt, forced to abort just because they want to carry on their lineage for years. I wonder what is it that they want to pass through their lineage??? Ways how to torture your mum, your sister, kill a girl child.. Is it what they  want to carry forward??U Have some wonderful moments of love, u make your wife pregnant, 9months of carrying the baby amidst the bouts of vomiting ,nausea,cramps in the stomach, enduring 12-13 hours of labour pain,taking every step carefully so that your love child(sorry !! your lineage) is not affected..after all this hardships and when the baby is finally delivered,one day someone gets up from somewhere and just decides that they don't want to have this baby just because it is a gal. Who gives them this right? You make love to your wife but leave her exposed for the entire world to give their useless opinion.

 Only the mother i.e your wife has the right or should have the right to talk about her baby. It takes a woman to give life to someone. Its only if a gal is born ,would the generation move forward.

Those lovely pink ribbons, those lovely bottles of nail paint and lipsticks, those lovely curly locks of hair, those artistic eyes and beautiful eyelashes, that million dollar smile,those non stop talks and chitchatting ,her moves ,as you say in hindi uske nakhre,adayein,thousand expressions that run across her face…lovely isn’t it?? Yes beautiful is the apt word. The name Nanhi Kali (small little flower bud) because I find it synonymous with a baby gal.Gals are as beautiful as the petals of a flower.This is something that comes to my mind when I think of a baby girl. You are deprived of this beauty given by God if you don’t allow it to come to this world.

I have been lucky to be born in a family where the numbers of daughters are more than the number of sons. No one worries about any damn lineage..Today no one knows whether they would return home back safe when they leave early mornings for work, forget carrying their lineage. My parents have been proud of both me and my sister and they have never felt the need of any guy even when my dad underwent a bypass surgery(something that was relatively new to us, and was the first in the family), we have managed it well just like so many other such beautiful angels today.

The govt should ban all the sex determination centers and debar all the doctors from their medical degrees who are game to such heinous acts. The women should themselves stand up for themselves in case they are being tortured for sake of a baby boy. The women should never go in for a child when she knows that the family she is married to would never accept a baby gal.Stand up for yourself first and then the world would stand with you,for you.I think fighting against your in laws for your rights would be less painful than the long hours of labor pain.

Next time your wife gets pregnant, be happy that you could actually get her pregnant. Be happy that she could bear a child. And do remember it’s not a lottery system, you just cannot keep trying till you get lucky. And if u have a mindset , that your wife can  has to give a baby boy, all I can say is BE A MAN FIRST!!!!!!

Colorful Childhood Days

On the eve of independence   day, we were busy decorating our Office   ODC (offshore development centre) this weekend and in the process we shopped for lot of things right from balloons to poster colors. After a long time I got an opportunity to play with colors or rather try my hand at painting. We were trying to paint the map of India in tri color and there I tried my hand at coloring. Wow  !! it was indeed a great feeling.

All my childhood I always craved for those stylish boxes of poster colors. But then my parents would always tell me that it’s too costly and I always had to settle down with the not-so-stylish water colors. I was never good at painting and am still not, which my parents understood long back I guess  ; but then there was always this craze for Camel’s poster colors. Having them was a matter of pride in those days.I remember one of my friends Dipti nair (dunno where she is now!!) always flaunted her big box of water colors. We used to envy her for the same. We would always look at her box of colors with eager eyes wishing to have the same one day.

Today as I painted the tricolor I checked the cost of the poster colors and it was just Rs.125; an amount which was too big 10 years back. I was like poster colors are so cheap?? Only to realize that it was really costly 10- 12 years back.

I was terrible at painting then ,as am now. But then getting ma hands all soiled with colors was a pleasure.I could never agree more with surf excel fellas who said “dag acche hai” .I loved those colors on ma hand, my face but my drawing still ugly.But I was proud of them because then they were my paintings. I remember we had our drawing books with images on them and we just had to replicate them. There was a drawing of a lion and we had to replicate it.I put my heart and soul while drawing, but then my lion looked as meek as a lamb and I had got the beating of my life for that disastrous painting. These are some of the sweet and sour memories of my childhood. But then they were the best. And I have vowed to buy poster colors and try ma hand at painting no matter how meek my lion looks or how courageous my cow looks!!! It is just a matter of recreating the magic of childhood days and being a child again.

You can never be a child again but then who’s stopping you from getting your clothes soiled in mud, getting those colors on your hand ,dress and face, relishing a lollypop, jumping in the puddle of mud water , making paper boats and then putting them in a puddle of water…guess that was life…!!!

Let’s live those days of innocence again !!!

My Take On Relationships :

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Recently read in the newspaper, a 73 year old couple battling for divorce. They have their kids who are well settled, have their grand kids too… but still they have been battling it out in the court because they just can’t stand each other. The court tried to make peace but then both the sides refused to live in together again. This may not be the first case or something new but then it really made me think hard, what is that you want in a relationship.

After 40-50 years of staying together and bringing up kids together, finally what would have happened that made them grew apart. I wondered does it take 40-50 years to know your partner?I wondered as to what could be the actual reason for the same. Either the problem would have been right from the start but then they would have compromised for their kids or their family(typical Indian mentality!!!) or they have lost the mutual understanding which is an important ingredient of every relation.

I have had a friend who would always say “When I’m willing to cook her chicken tikkas for dinner and chocolate mousse for breakfast-in-bed, she should atleast be beautiful” I would try explaining things to him that beauty would fade away but then no use. Is it beauty that would make the relation grow stronger.? What if she is beautiful and suspicious of every activity of yours?? Does it even sound good?? Forget staying with her then!!!!!I feel in a relationship the person appears beautiful in the first two years of courtship or may be 3years of marriage and sexual intimacy but then in the long run what makes the couple  beautiful or your partner beautiful is how the person has been a strength throughout the journey. Fights are common in every relation but then the way you fought over small things guides you throughout the journey. If in the first fight you end up breaking vessels and jars ,the time is not far when you end up breaking your  hearts.

I believe at the age of 73 what I would want is peace, an understanding partner(doesn’t matter if he looks the worst then) and it wouldn’t even matter if he doesn’t cook  chicken tikkas for me.I would rather reminisce about my wonderful moments with him. For me spending time more together would be the best option rather than moving court. I believe the couple lacked the basic understanding and that is the reason they wanted a divorce. If it would have been the society that they bothered about then even now they wouldn’t have taken such a step.

The basic thing that is missing in most of the relationships these days is trust and understanding. Something that I believe in very strongly, be with someone who understands you, who accepts you the way you are. It doesn’t matter what the world thinks about your decision. They are no one to decide anyways .Don’t get into a marriage because someone wants you to. And don’t stay in an abusive relation just because someone wants you to. I may sound selfish but then nothing hurts more mentally and physically than being in an abusive relation. Be in a relationship with someone who has got the basic understanding of what you want. 

Trust me!!! If your partner has the required compassion, understanding he would appear to be the most beautiful human in the world even in his sixties and seventies. His/her wrinkles would make them appear even more beautiful. After all life Is not measured by the number of times you slept together but the little sweet moments like the first salary after marriage, first movie,first bouquet of flowers,first fight and then being all sorry about it, first financial crunch,forgetting your anniversary and then making up for it ,your first experiment with cooking to impress your partner,the first long drive , your first baby…etc. What is life without all these?

My Gadget Speaks For Me

 

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Technology has changed lives. We have come a long way with new developments and technologies springing up every single day. Apple was just a fruit when I was born and now so many years later my phone is called an apple. Similarly blackberry was a fruit for all of us once upon a time and now it’s the name of a mobile phone that people crave for. Things have changed and Change has been easily accepted. People have moved on with change. today when I say “ I brought a blackberry” , the thought that would come to every single mind would be of a blackberry phone rather than the fruit, and no one would even ask “fruit or the phone?”

Guess that’s the impact gadgets and technology has had on human lives. Whatever gadgets have been invented , they have been created with human beings,and their comfort in mind. Or we can say gadgets have been built by man for the human race and have a humane touch to it. For eg. Nokia phone –connecting people or Iphone which screams out “Touching is Believing” .Somewhere it has qualities which we have ; touching or connecting people,in some or the other way where it does have a striking resemblance.

The moment I saw the topic “how gadgets reflect your personality “sponsored by DELL I really had to think hard as to which gadget would represent me. I asked my friends as to which gadget reflects my personality.I was amused by the answers. Some said you are like a bread toaster ; u just cant keep things to yourself they keep popping out. Someone said you are like a coffee vending machine; one press of a button and there you go on and on. A cleanliness freak friend said you are like a vacuum cleaner “you eat all the garbage ie.street food” I was like Whoa! look at the way they are dropping subtle hints  J

The gadget that I frequently use these days more than any other gadget is my hurricane lamp with usb .Thanks to the frequent power cuts that forces us to stay armed with gadgets like these specially during the rainy season. I think I would rather let my gadget talk what they think is common among both of us till the time I am winding up with my important work.

Hurricane Lamp With USB says:                                                                           

Hurricane Lamp With USB

I guess you all know what I am and what I am used for. I was brought in by my master ; your fellow blogger because she stays in a place where load shedding  is  quite common.

I have been living with her since a long time and I have known her really well. Ah!! she is such a sweetheart.

Talking about sweetheart I feel she does have some of my characteristics *Glows with pride*   

Same Same Inch pinch!!

1) Consistent: We both are consistent .Just like my flame is consistent and doesn’t flicker I have seen her being consistent with her studies and whatever she has done in her life.She has always studied keeping me close to her and she has been consistently  clearing the exams with flying colors.

2) Helpful: I have spent my life adding lights to the life of people. I realized she is helpful when she kept me out of the house at night during one of such load shedding sessions so that others could find their way.I didn’t like staying out with so many mosquitoes howering over but then the motive behind her this action made me happy

3) Temper: Just like the way I get hot, she too loses her temper easily.

4) Mood Swings : I have this special ability to glow in different colored flames.My color changing flames are just like her frequent mood swings; sometimes happy ,some times angry and sometimes sad. Her mood just keeps fluctuating.

5) Naughty:

She is one of the brats in the colony who keeps on hiding toys of children, scaring oldies in the dark, teasing guys, I must tell u she’s an Adam Teaser. I have been silent witness to many of her pranks. I too be naughty at times and I refrain from glowing many a times when she presses the knob and specially when she needs me the most.I like to see the naughtiest gal being frustrated.

No Way! We Are Not The Same !!

1) Curvaceous Figure: Yeah this is what my fellow gadgets envy me for. I have got a body that I can flaunt and that is something she lacks. But yes the change is easy and she can easily attain my body type. .I hope she is reading this *Giggles*

2) Jealousy:  I know her little secret; She is jealous of the next door Pinky(shhh!! Keep it a secret) and yeah this is something I can never be.Its these qualities that make a human, a human.

3) Charging: I need to be constantly charged to work properly or I feel damn low at times *Sulks* But my memsahib isn’t like this. She is all charged up for every occasion. She just wants a reason to step out of the house no matter what time of the day it is.

4)Chatterbox - She is one helluva chatterbox.Whenever i try grabbing my forty winks ,she starts chitchatting over the phone.She switches me off and then sits next to me chitchatting,gossiping. Don't I have a life??!!! *Sigh! Rolls eyes*(voice from the background-"that Varun Sharma from Citibank was so handsome..blah blah blah!!!)I guess she is coming.

And Shhh!!! Let all this be a secret!!! Ohh !! there she comes…and I think she would switch me off.. No!! No!!! (Switched off)

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My Dad Is 61 Years Old.

Writing comes naturally to me but words have failed me when I thought about writing something for my dad. Finally on the Eve of Fathers Day I thought I could write something for him…I don’t know whether he would read it .Even if he would read it am not sure whether he would appreciate me directly. But one thing am damn sure is he would be extremely happy and would bless me.

Right from my childhood days for me my dad has been my inspiration. Though he never took interest in the studies part for both sisters (since both of us managed it really well) he inculcated in us an interest for playing badminton. He put a lot of efforts in teaching me cycling..But an heavy baby that I was and I am ,I could never learn it. I have no regrets I could not learn it but those memories are damn precious. Taking a break out of his Sunday holiday and teaching me is still a priceless memory.Those were the days when he used to teach me whatever new things would come up. He was the script writer for most of my elocution competitions.I loved every word he wrote. He has become old now. He became 61 yr old just three days back. Post one bypass surgery ,he still doesn’t look 61 and is still quite younger  at heart.

I could never cometo terms with the fact that my dad is actually growing old .For me my dad is still the same .  

But these days…

While climbing stairs, when he waits and gasps for breath of air ,

I realize he ‘s growing old.

While he asks me to thread a needle

I realize he ‘s growing old.

While he asks me to read him an article

I realize he ‘s growing old.

While he asks for help to carry luggage

I realize he ‘s growing old.

While he asks how to use a new electronic device

I realize he’ s growing old.

While he takes time to match our steps while walking and Is somewhere way behind

I realize he’s growing old.

While the number of medicine prescriptions increase

I realize he’s growing old.

While the number of visits to doctor’s  dispensary increases

I realize he’s growing old.

When he dyes up his hair and asks me “safed bal dikh raha hai kya?(can u see any white  hair around?)”

I realize he’s growing old.

-Chitra

I have noticed the fact as parents grow old we need to treat them like our babies and do everything they once did for us. Right from reading to guiding them to how to do certain things.Last week when I created a resume for my mum , I was like wondering she is the one who taught me and now she wants me to write it for her..Strange!!!!but true!!We learn so much from them during our entire life and then when they get old we just have to  do the same for them Whatever done by them cannot be paid back but yes an effort to keep them happy can  always be taken. It feels nice to read newspapers for them, read them some articles, and thread needles for them because it takes me back to the old days where they have done so much for me.I love the child like enthusiasm I see in my dad whenever I gift him something these days and the way he keeps it carefully. Then I relate it to my childhood days when I got my first Bharatnatyam ornament set as a gift from him. I was excited in the same way. I am a lazy bone but there are times when I thoroughly enjoy cooking up his favourite dish or making him a cup of coffee…My dad has never been like  my mum ,they both have been totally different. My dad is the patient one and my mum, the impatient one. My dad has always been a strength   through difficult situations. He has been practical all his life and my mum simply emotional about all the stuff. He has been supportive both to my mum as well as both his daughters in every phase of life. He is a man of few words. But that is how I like him.

I hope by now all of you would have related   it to your own story. Yes !! Now  even  I have decided to come to terms with the fact that my parents are growing old and I am the one who needs to take care of them. Through this article I would like to convey a message   that as your parents grow old they need you just like the way we needed them when we were new to this world all alone. They turn into small babies when they grow old and expecting them to act maturely just because they are growing old is foolishness. Treat them like a 4year old, pamper them and see the happiness that you get. I expect my friends to be sensitive about their parents. One of the most beautiful relations that we are bound with ,as soon as we are born is that of a parent and a child. Day to day communication and splurging of expensive gifts is not necessary .All that is necessary is to let them feel that you are always there for them whenever you are around.

Happy Fathers Day to All the Wonderful Dads In the World. Being A Dad is not that easy…..Salute to all the Wonderful Dads Around.

What Color Do I Paint?

  While  returning  from the office  I have my company bus  to drop me home and I feel lucky and   blessed  because I don’t  have to face the hassles of the local trains which the common man in Mumbai has to go through   while  travelling  to their workplace and then back home. My bus drops me  near the east west  connecting bridge and the only hassle that I have to face is to cross the over  crowded bridge pushing and punching the pervert man, people who are always in a hurry and some who never want to reach home and just use the bridge to loiter around or coochie-coo with their partners. By the time I reach the western end of the bridge I am a sight to see,hair all messed up, my specks in  a balancing mode , my bag hanging precariously on one of my shoulders Once I cross the swarm of people   I heave a sigh of relief to find myself alive and that I haven’t been a victim of stampede.

One day as usual I wrestled my way out to find a lady sitting on the bridge with a   baby on her lap. Nothing seemed unusual about her and I thought she’s one among the beggars who   just want to earn their livelihood   by begging and by doing nothing else. As days passed by,I found out that the lady was blind. I find her sitting there at the same place daily. I see at times the baby crying and she feeding the baby. I   don’t know how she reaches the bridge who helps her or how does she take care of the child. How  she manages her little world is still a big question,a mystery to many of us born with eyesight. Seeing her I have often pondered what is it to be blind. What do they see? What colors she could see? What color the sky would appear to her???I wondered whether she had seen her child,whether she had seen the father of the child. 

Thinking of her or rather passing by her daily reminds me of several other visually impaired people   who see no color in life except black and white.How hapless is it to be appended to the stick,to be dependent on people to move ,eat  ,sleep ,live etc….

Of all the senses, sight must be the most delightful.

-Helen Keller

And we all do agree to what Hellen Keller has said . Eyes are one of the best creations by God and both, who have it and the ones who don’t have it know the worth of it. I often wonder What color do I Paint their lives with??? I want to fill in those colors in their lives which the privileged one’s enjoy. I want them to enjoy the canvas called as life and the various colors splattered on it. I managed to pen down a few lines just to share the plight of visually impaired people, on what things they miss and why their life is colorless or plainly black and white..

I look here and there

And into the void I just stare.

Day and nights pass by

But I cant see what changes in the sky

Birds chirp around

All i can hear is their sound

The rising and setting of the sun

Oh!I can see them none.

Quiescent water deep of lake

That i can't see it ,makes my heart ache

Can feel the  pleasure and pain

But how do I see the beauty of rain?

People around me donot have a face

Even though i can feel their warm embrace

I can feel love, make love, and be with my love

But then would I never know what is my love?

I may get my charming prince

Handsome he would be,to my heart i convince.

To a child I can be a mother

Hows the face of my child i would always bother

Of all the senses sight is the delightful

Because eyes are the ones that makes the life colorful

I wonder how it would be

If i had the eyes that could see

I aint sure would it worthy to be(not blind)

But i just wished I could see!! i could see

-Chitra

As mentioned in the above poem a visually impaired person misses out on almost all the important aspects of life. A single day if I forget wearing my specks I end up creating a mess.I end up bumping into people ,I end up doing things wrong.I wonder how they manage to live without those  natural specks.

 I wish to color the life of every blind person so that they too can see the rose red in color, sky in its cool blue color, a rainbow which is a union of colors. For them every other thing would be the same either in black or in white. I wish to add the colors to their imagination. I wish to color their life with the paint of love so that every visually impaired person could get the opportunity to see the prince/princess of their   dreams. What life it is if a mother cannot see her own creation ,her own baby. I wish to color their life’s with the unique and most mesmerizing color of parenthood. I wish them the color of beautiful dawn and dusk in their life. 

Just try blindfolding yourself and staying the same way the whole day and try doing things.Y es!! helpless is the word…So through this article I need to pass on the message  “Donate Your  Eyes  “  so that after you, someone lives through your eyes and sees the wonderful world through your eyes

Let’s make someone’s life colorful  today and give them a better tomorrow.

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Blogging Ka Pehla Pehla Prize

 Its 16^th of June and my eyes are all set on the Indi blogger webpage, right from morning am just eager to know who the winner is. I thought I dint have a chance to win with so many experienced bloggers competing with me..I wondered whether they (the honorable jury)would have atleast read  the article.( http://zindagiunlimited.blogspot.com/2011/05/beauty-lies-deep-within.html)The total number of people who had read my article were mere 60, atleast they were the ones who acknowledged that they read my article and gave their valuable comments. The clock went tick tock and all I did the whole day was checking and rechecking the website again and again. At night by 10pm I thought of going through it for the one last time before I hit the bed and what do I see!!! It was a Miracle!!!! My name was in the winners list

I wondered whether “Chitra “written in the Winners list was actually me.I went and clicked on the link and Wow!!! My blog opened.!! That was me!!!!The first expression when I realized it was ME!!!was something like this…

Google.com

And then something like this:

Google.com

I just broke out into a jig and flung the door open of my room and hurried to tell it to my parents.My parents were extremely happy and I was all happy too..

What is so special about this award is not that am winning 3000 bucks, I would have been happy even if it would have been 10 bucks as prize money. For me the money didn’t matter, what mattered to me is being on the list with so many expert bloggers .The award is an encouragement for lazy people like me who need to set their mood to pen down their thoughts. Right nowI am on cloud nine. Its an achievement to know people actually love my thoughts and yes write now I feel like a Miss World Contestant who’s just won the crown .I always used to wonder why those gals on ramp would be speechless and would often be like the pic above when they won the crown. Today I realize what it feels to sharpen your skills in something you are not good in naturally and then give everyone a run for their money. And yes!  me too going to come up  with the winning speech.Here it goes:

“This prize is dedicated to my parents because now they have finally realized what I do on the internet all the time and they have no issues with me sticking to it forever now.  To all my friends who ask me whether I am working for FB. Guys working for FB was never this fun. To Karanji aka Abhishek Karande  (yes now don’t be humble…you definitely need credit for this) who gave me the idea to pen down my thoughts ,may be because he himself didn’t want to suffer alone listening to my nonstop bakwas.To my sister who is the architect of my blog.The entire look is her effort. And to all my friends who after reading say with a suspicious look “kaha se dhapa?”(From where have you stolen this??) And to the bus gang who never read any of my articles but are the first to shamelessly ask “party kabhi hai ?(when is the party?)” To Suneal whos been a support big time. To “Appy Iyer” aka G.R.I who’s one statement “ I was yawning and yawning when I read your blog and then later on complimenting my blog(Even though I don’t know which one is true the yawning part or the compliment J :P your comments have definitely encouraged me to write better.

And yes to the wonderful indi bloggers  who have read my article patiently J

Phew!!!! That was indeed a long speech but then they deserve the credit J